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Man’s history of rape could be exposed
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Man’s history of rape could be exposed

June 16, 2018

Her mom is gone now, but her dad is still hanging on. He lives in a retirement home known for supporting children and children’s activities. (It’s associated with one of…

Son fears for mom’s welfare
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Son fears for mom’s welfare

June 15, 2018

To me, this would be a nightmare. I can’t be around her more than two or three days, and she has “hinted” that she would like to move in permanently…

Retired man only talks to youngsters
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Retired man only talks to youngsters

June 14, 2018

He says he has no interest in talking to people our age, so when we get together with our friends, who are mostly our age, he says practically nothing. When…

Strip club cause for ultimatum
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Strip club cause for ultimatum

June 13, 2018

I flew to Monterey to job hunt, and he is supposed to be flying in soon. However, last night I found out he and his buddy went to a strip…

Dad’s relationship makes life hard
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Dad’s relationship makes life hard

June 12, 2018

When they first started dating, she was very nice, and I liked her. However, because my mom is gone, she decided to assume the role of “mother” after they moved…

Woman adapts to loss of motherhood
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Woman adapts to loss of motherhood

June 11, 2018

Grieve your loss. Losing the possibility for motherhood is a great loss. Find a support group or counselor who deals with loss. Believe me, I understand. My boyfriend told me…

Mom harassed by family pranks
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Mom harassed by family pranks

June 10, 2018

My husband has always liked playing pranks, and my children have started to follow his lead. The pranks tend to be things like ice down the back of my shirt,…

Daughter struggles with divorce
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Daughter struggles with divorce

June 9, 2018

They both tell me their sides of the story, but they never bother to listen to my feelings and what I want to say. It’s like I have to be…

Woman wants to end friendship
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Woman wants to end friendship

June 8, 2018

I’m not sure why she sends me these messages. Could it be to make me jealous of her “fairytale” lifestyle, which I’m not sure I believe she even truly lives?…

Widow gets emotional over fake flower
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Widow gets emotional over fake flower

June 7, 2018

My sister and I were appalled by the insincerity of this gesture, and I called and told the funeral home director that the sentiments were as phony as the rose.…

Difficult birth haunts mom
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Difficult birth haunts mom

June 5, 2018

I can’t stop thinking about how quickly my husband agreed to that decision! At the time, I was OK with his immediate reaction and loved him more for caring about…

Romance returns with same red flags
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Romance returns with same red flags

June 4, 2018

Jerry found me on Facebook and started writing. Abby, he has been married and divorced five times. We eventually got together and have been seeing each other for almost two…

Teen cancer survivor struggles with dating
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Teen cancer survivor struggles with dating

June 3, 2018

She’s now a senior in high school, but looks like she’s 7 or 8. She yearns for what every teen girl wants – a boyfriend. The problem is, no one…

Man must choose: Wife or mistress?
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Man must choose: Wife or mistress?

May 29, 2018

When I confronted him about the situation, he claimed he doesn’t know what to do. I have told him I’m willing to work things out and be supportive of the…

Shared misery enables friendship
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Shared misery enables friendship

May 28, 2018

I have met a wonderful man. We are in love and will see where it goes. When I talk to or see Grace, she never asks about my life or…

Boyfriend flirts with other women
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Boyfriend flirts with other women

May 27, 2018

It can be family, neighbors, clerks, waitresses, etc. He calls them “sweetheart,” “baby,” “darling,” etc. He pours on the charm and even follows them around to help them with whatever…

Teen wants way out of gang
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Teen wants way out of gang

May 26, 2018

We get into a lot of fights. I know I have hurt quite a few people and I want to set myself straight. I’m worried because I’m dealing with major…

Man can’t let go of marriage
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Man can’t let go of marriage

May 25, 2018

Since then, I have been in a handful of relationships that ultimately went down in flames. Three months ago, I rekindled one of those relationships, but it ended quickly because,…

Daughter sees mom’s bleak future
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Daughter sees mom’s bleak future

May 24, 2018

I used to blame myself, but have realized over the years that I’m not alone in how I feel about her. The problem is, she doesn’t realize her behavior is…

Daughter annoyed by bedroom noises
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Daughter annoyed by bedroom noises

May 23, 2018

I have a long-term live-in boyfriend, and we enjoy each other in many ways. We try to be quiet while we’re enjoying each other physically, but evidently we are not…

Man fulfills his vows to dying wife
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Man fulfills his vows to dying wife

May 22, 2018

I tried to care for her at home, but over the last year and a half, it became too difficult. With the help of our daughters, we found a wonderful…

Arm-wrestle failure changes couple
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Arm-wrestle failure changes couple

May 21, 2018

Trixi made a muscle. When I complimented her on her impressive arm definition, she responded I should see my girlfriend’s. When my girlfriend flexed, her bicep popped up so high…

Family can’t follow wedding RSVP
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Family can’t follow wedding RSVP

May 20, 2018

My adult children always ask me to call my siblings to check whether they are coming or not so some of their friends can be included if the family isn’t…

Public overlooks woman’s anxiety
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Public overlooks woman’s anxiety

May 19, 2018

The problem is, when I try to explain that I suffer from GAD (generalized anxiety disorder), which affects my ability to learn to drive and sometimes just function day to…

Neighbor has tanning dilemma
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Neighbor has tanning dilemma

May 18, 2018

I would like to enjoy our pool (how to put this delicately?) without tan lines. I do not want to offend them or expose myself to their teenage son when…

Mom too tired to help kids
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Mom too tired to help kids

May 17, 2018

I teach, so my day is spent dealing with other people’s kids, and then I pick my own kids up. I have no time to decompress or devote to myself.…

Woman wants to replace lost recipes
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Woman wants to replace lost recipes

May 16, 2018

Most of my family members have died, so they can no longer be a resource for the traditional dishes I grew up with. I saw a post online a while…

Mom at end with son’s outbursts
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Mom at end with son’s outbursts

May 15, 2018

I have tried therapy and medications for him, but he hasn’t changed. I’m at my wits’ end, ready to give up and hand him over to the court. He has…

Boyfriend keeps teen up late
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Boyfriend keeps teen up late

May 14, 2018

When my daughter goes out with him, he keeps her out until 3:30 a.m. or later. He has done this twice that I know of. I had a conversation with…