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Bayfield family mourns son who died of ‘broken heart’

Scott Wiebe died nine days after his fiancée fell into a river and disappeared
Scott Wiebe takes a photo with his fiancée, Roberta Rodriguez. Roberta died in June after falling into the South Fork River. Scott of Bayfield took his own life nine days later.

BAYFIELD – Chloe Wiebe walked around her son’s apartment. In the main room, the furniture was sparse and the door hung open on an empty, recently cleaned refrigerator. In his bedroom, rows of baseball hats hung on the wall. A jug of glue sat next to a completed puzzle, ready to be applied.

It is a scene of life in motion. But it is also a scene that came to a sudden stop.

Scott Wiebe, 39, of Bayfield, was found dead June 24, nine days after his fiancée, Roberta Rodriguez, 37, of Colorado Springs, fell into the South Fork River. Rodriguez’s body was recovered June 25, a day after Scott died.

Family members said Scott took his own life. In an obituary, they said he “died of a broken heart.” The La Plata County Coroner’s Office has not made a final determination on cause of death, saying autopsy and toxicology results are pending.

“Sometimes, it doesn’t even feel real,” said Brian Wiebe, Scott’s younger brother.

Chloe Wiebe walks around her son’s apartment Tuesday in Bayfield. The Wiebe family held a memorial service Friday for Scott Wiebe at Bayfield Church of Christ.

The Wiebe family memorialized Scott on Friday at Bayfield Church of Christ, struggling through a whirlwind of grief just weeks after his and his fiancée’s sudden deaths.

Chloe Wiebe said Roberta and Scott hit it off instantly. The couple met through mutual friends in 2017. Roberta, a mother of four, was an avid puzzler – decorating their shared upstairs apartment at Chloe and Ken Wiebe’s house with finished pieces. She was an adventurer and made “amazing” tacos and chicken tortilla soup, the Wiebe family said.

“They were always like a magnet,” said Tanya Basye, a family friend.

Brian, Chloe and Tanya sat at the kitchen table in the Wiebe’s house. On the table next to them, Scott’s childhood cowboy boots and a picture of him as a child were surrounded by sympathy cards.

“Oh my goodness, I’m way thankful for the time I got to spend with her,” said Chloe, referring to Roberta. Scott’s father, Ken, and Roberta had developed a close bond. Ken, whose health declined since the search for Roberta began and Scott died, is now in hospice care.

Scott was a father of three and a stepfather of one. He was a locksmith, and in his free time, he coached for the Young American Football League, led a Boy Scout troop and volunteered at school. Scott was an avid outdoorsman, often camping, fishing, hunting or off-roading in a rock crawler.

Brian Wiebe holds a plaque given to Scott Wiebe by the Young American Football League team that he coached. Next to him are sympathy cards, Scott’s childhood cowboy boots and photos of Scott and his fiancée, Roberta Rodriguez, who died June 15.

“A lot of people are worried about Brian,” Tanya said, patting Brian’s arm. “They were extremely tight, and Brian really admired and looked up to Scott.”

The two brothers, 1½ years apart, went through Bayfield High School together until Scott graduated in 1998. They worked together as pipeline surveyors afterward.

Scott, who was extremely competitive, was a wide receiver on the football team and a track athlete. At school, he looked out for his “little” brother. Brian was taller, often reminding Scott as kids that he could touch the ceiling first. “He got better grades than me,” Brian said.

The days after Roberta fell into the river, Scott looked broken, Tanya said, his eyes red and swollen from crying.

Roberta and Scott were driving home from Colorado Springs when they stopped at Wolf Creek Pass to look at the river, which was flowing at 1,800 cubic feet per second, nine times its seasonal average, according to SnoFlo. They had climbed over rocks near the riverbank and began to leave as it was getting dark. Scott heard Roberta splash into the water behind him and tried to catch up to her but the water was too fast, he told the Mineral County Sheriff’s Office at the time.

“You could tell he was very upset, he was extremely distraught. He communicated great. He never got really frustrated with us, but he was clearly distraught over it,” said Mineral County Sheriff Fred Hosselkus.

Chloe and Scott stayed at a motel in the area for several days. Mineral County Search and Rescue let them walk the river with the victim’s advocate. They asked how they could help, and the sheriff said they should find someplace more comfortable. The next day, Scott said he wanted to go home.

“The last few days, Scott kept saying, ‘I just don’t know how to do this. I don’t know how to do it. I don’t know how I could live without her,’” Chloe said. He couldn’t be in the apartment, staying for hours at a time before having to leave. He couldn’t sleep. Chloe told him, “You’ve got to sleep. You’re not thinking straight. You can’t make choices and decisions without sleeping.”

Scott Wiebe plays with two of his sons in 2009.

On Tuesday, just days before her son’s memorial service, Chloe couldn’t contain her grief.

“I am extremely thankful for the 39 years I’ve had with him,” Chloe said between the sudden sobs that seemed to come from deep inside her chest. Tonya’s eyes welled with tears, and Brian tilted his head down, the brim of his baseball hat shielding his face. “I’m thankful that he found true love,” Chloe said. I’m thankful that he found true happiness.”


How to get help

Help for people having suicidal thoughts or for those who fear a person is considering killing himself:

Axis Health System:

24-hour hotline at 247-5245.

National Suicide Prevention Hotline:

(800) 273-TALK (8255) or text “TALK” to 741741.

RED Nacional de Prevención Del Suicidio:

(888) 628-9454.

National Crisis text Hotline:


Fort Lewis College Counseling Center:


Boys Town Hotline:

(800) 448-3000.

Safe2Tell Colorado:

(877) 542-7233 or online at https://safe2tell.org.

Colorado Crisis Support Line:

(844) 493-8255 or text “TALK” to 38255 or online at


to access a live chat available in 17 languages. The line has mental-health professionals available to talk to adults or youths about any crisis, 24 hours a day.

Trevor Project:

(866) 488-7386. Crisis intervention and suicide prevention for LGBTQ youth via online chat, text or phone.

Second Wind Fund:

(720) 962-0706. This is not a crisis hotline, but the fund is available to youths who face social or financial barriers to crisis counseling. The organization requires a referral by a school counselor or mental-health professional.

Survivors Support Group:

Heartbeat of Durango meets from 6 to 8 p.m. the second Wednesday of every month at the Grief Center, 2243 Main Ave., second floor. For more information, call Janna at 749-1673.

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention:

Colorado chapter information available at



For men:

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