Firefighters on Friday credited Kevin Abeyta, 24, of Durango with sacrificing his life to save a mother and two children from a townhome fire.
“It’s time to give Kevin his due,” said Karola Hanks, fire marshal for the Durango Fire Protection District. “He was on his way out of the building, turned around and said, ‘The kids,’ and went back in.”
Family and friends identified the mother as Grisela Picasso of Durango, and her two boys as Ira, 5 and Rivers, 10. Picasso was taken to University of Colorado Hospital in Aurora with respiratory injuries. Her son, Ira, was taken to Children’s Hospital Colorado with second-degree burns to his left side and respiratory injuries. He was in critical but stable condition Friday, said his father, Anthony Martinez, who lives in Taos, New Mexico.
The older boy, Rivers, was treated at Mercy Regional Medical Center and released.
“It’s like night and day between my two kids,” Martinez said. “It’s amazing to think Rivers was in the same fire as his mom and Ira, because his (Rivers’) hair is singed, he has minor cuts and minor burns, and minor smoke inhalation –but he got released the same day.”
Martinez said he met Abeyta about three years ago, and it was clear he loved and cared for Ira, Rivers and Picasso.
“In the face of death, he went into a burning building to make sure my boys were OK, and I just think that’s amazing, and I’m so thankful to Kevin for that,” Martinez said. “I think if he didn’t do that, there would be three fatalities instead of one. I thank him, even though I can’t thank him.”
The cause of the fire that destroyed much of the Tercero Townhouse complex remains under investigation. Firefighters received the call at 1:48 a.m. Wednesday and arrived 5 minutes later to find the building in the 2100 block of West Third Avenue ablaze. About 20 permanent residents of the nine-unit complex were displaced.
Grisela Picasso and her boys were staying temporarily with her sister, Hilda Picasso, at the townhome.
Hilda Picasso was a permanent resident in Unit No. 2123, which she shared with Abeyta and his husband, Tonny Del Solar.
In an interview Friday, Del Solar said it’s no surprise investigators are calling his husband a hero.
“He told me, ‘I’m going back for those kids,’” he said.
Hanks said firefighters never doubted Del Solar’s story, but they wanted to conduct a thorough investigation, including talking to people who were inside the unit, before endorsing that version of events. As of Friday morning, firefighters and police had no doubt Abeyta’s actions saved the mother and boys, she said.
“Kevin was very unselfish and gave his life to protect others,” she said. “It takes a very special person, a very caring person, to do that.”
Abeyta and Del Solar opened Los Amigos Del Sur, a Mexican restaurant, in April inside the Main Mall. The restaurant was closed in the days after the fire but reopened Friday.
Del Solar said it was his dream to open a restaurant, and Abeyta provided him with the motivation needed to make it happen. On mornings Abeyta dropped off Del Solar at work, Abeyta would assure Del Solar it was going to be a good day with a lot of customers.
“He said, ‘Never give up. I will support you,’” Del Solar said. “I’m going to do this for him because he wanted me to do this.”
He added: “It’s been so hard. Honestly, I don’t want to be here.”
Del Solar said he was awoken by flames and smoke beside his bed about 1:45 a.m. Wednesday. He grabbed Abeyta by the hand and together they went downstairs and exited the townhome. That’s when Abeyta realized he had to warn Grisela Picasso and her boys.
In at least a half-dozen interviews, friends and family described Abeyta as a generous soul.
Del Solar said he cared about the people around him more than he cared about himself. If there was enough food for only one person, he insisted Del Solar be the one to eat, he said. And he would do that for anyone.
Finances were difficult after opening the restaurant in April, but that didn’t stop Abeyta from comping some meals to customers he thought were more in need, Del Solar said.
“I wasn’t fine with that,” he said with a slight smile. “He always cared about people, but he didn’t care about himself.”
The restaurant uses a parrot in its logo. To help promote the new restaurant, Abeyta went online and bought a parrot costume to wear around town and at special events, his husband said. During slow times at the restaurant, he would say, “Parrot time!” and go put on the costume and walk up and down Main Avenue in an effort to bring people into the restaurant.
His dream was to become a hair stylist. He practiced cutting Ira’s and Rivers’ hair, but Del Solar said he wouldn’t let Abeyta cut his hair until he had more practice.
Del Solar said Abeyta, a Durango native, was one of the hardest workers he has ever met. He maintained two or three jobs until giving all of his time to the restaurant. Other places he worked included Economy Nissan, Tacos Nayarit, Albertsons, China Cafe and a medical testing center in the Tech Center.
He made friends in far-flung corners of the community, said Eric Kiefer, who was eating lunch Friday at Los Amigos Del Sur.
“He was concerned about everyone’s well-being much more so than himself,” Kiefer said. “He was the best dancer on the face of this planet and that was the least of his qualities.”
About six former coworkers from Albertsons had lunch and recalled stories of Abeyta on Friday at the restaurant.
Tamra O’Toole, who was his boss, said Abeyta was her favorite employee for his personality, work ethic and consideration for other people. He bought her a bottle of booze with glittery, purple liquid for her birthday, she said. And after he left Albertsons 2½ years ago, he sent her a Facebook message thanking her for everything she taught him and not making him feel bad for quiting.
“You just couldn’t not love him,” O’Toole said.
A GoFundMe site has been set up to help the family of Kevin Abeyta, who died early Wednesday in a Durango apartment fire. The site raised $3,126 of a $10,000 goal as of Friday evening. To view the site, visit www.GoFundMe.com and search for “
Abeyta and his husband, Tonny Del Solar, were co-owners of Los Amigos Del Sur, a Mexican restaurant that opened in April in the Main Mall, 835 Main Ave. A collection jar has been set out in the restaurant.
Another GoFundMe site has been set up for Hilda Picasso, the roommate of Abeyta and Del Solar, who lost all of her possessions in the fire and whose sister and nephews were injured in the fire. To view her site, search for “
A third GoFundMe site has been set up for the Madu family of four, who also lived in the townhomes. To view the site, search for “